Introduction For individuals with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), exploring the role of diet can be a transformative...
Author: Kristen McCLure MSW LCSW
Best ADHD Medications and Medication Advice for Women 💊
What kind of Medication is right for you? As a woman, I understand the hesitation many of us feel when it comes to taking medications for ADHD....
How ADHD Medication Works: A Simple Guide to Understanding Your Brain
Decoding ADHD: How Your Brain Works and How ADHD Medication Works If you have ADHD, you may have wondered why doctors often suggest...
🔍💡 Understanding ADHD: Diagnosis, Treatment, and Key Considerations for Women
ADHD: More Than Just Attention and Hyperactivity "Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder" (ADHD) is a misleading name....
ADHD and procrastination
Procrastination and ADHD ADHD and task initiation If you have adhd, you more than likely struggle with beginning tasks that are boring, overwhelming or difficult. The first step to coming up with a plan for helping yourself with this issue is to understand why you have this problem. It's not because you are lazy, stubborn, or stupid. It's because your brain is different. You share this is common with many other people, and everyone who has adhd. Knowing this helps you practice self compassion. It is crucial for you to understand how your brain works in order to help yourself with procrastination. ADHD, procrastination, and motivation Adhd is a disorder of executive functioning(EF). Executive functioning is needed to get just about everything done in every arena of life including work home and school. One crucial area of executive functioning that is impacted by adhd is motivation. Motivation consists of the following things Initiation It's what we need to get going on something, stop procrastinating and see it through. We need to have the initiation to get started without direction or executive reminding. Time management You need to be able to do things on time. You need to correctly estimate how long the steps of a project are going to take, and you need to avoid procrastination along the way. Sustaining of attention You need to be able to manage your attention and resist distraction. Goal oriented persistence You need too understand how to set a goal, stay focused on that goal, and be able to return to the task when things throw you off coursethat are unexpected. All of these things are compromised in people with adhd. You can learn more about what adhd is by clicking on this link. As a result, people with adhd suffer in many areas of their lives. If you have adhd, it's important to understand that the things you struggle with are hard, because of your deficits in EF not because of poor choices you make. Some facts about Procrastination and ADHD Starting and finishing tasks rely on executive functioning. People with ADHD experience a deficit of executive functioning (EF) skills. These skills unfold developmentally, not linearly, so that children may be at a particular disadvantage and young adults. When a task is unrewarding or uninteresting, it becomes much more challenging for you to get started on it. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter. It controls reward satisfaction and attachment. The less dopamine someone has, the more difficulty someone has started on things you don't perceive as rewarding. This influences the process of getting started on activities, particularly on complex tasks. It also impacts their experiences of feeling rewarded and satisfied. People with ADHD have lower amounts of dopamine in their brains. If the ADHD brain doesn't get immediate satisfaction or a fundamental understanding of the long-term benefit of doing something, it will be hard to muster up the ability to care What Helps with procrastination and adhd? One thing we know is that interest dramatically improves motivation in people with ADHD. ADHD brains need for things to be engaging for things to get accomplished BUILD extrinsic motivation and nurture intrinsic motivation. Incentives are more important than any punishment or shame. Remember, you are not engaging in the behavior by choice but because your brain works in a particular way. Now that you know it, you need to learn skills to work with your brain. Punishing and shaming yourself will never help create the skills but will lead to depression and immobilize you. Note: Punishments don't work for children with ADHD for the same reason. All they learn to do is lie and sneak to avoid it, and they develop a deep sense of shame. CREATE INCENTIVES and USE REWARDS in Order to get Started and Build Motivation PLAN for the OVERWHELM to Keep Going: Break it Down Smaller and Smaller While Increasing the Rewards When you have a big project or task, ask yourself "What will I do when I feel overwhelmed?" Write down everything that the project entails and make a map of how to get there. Anticipate that you will get overwhelmed and ask yourself "How will I reduce my overwhelm when it comes up?" One such way is to reduce your work load to smaller and smaller increments until you feel less overwhelmed. For example work only for 15 minutes on a task and then take a five minute break. Specifically list what you will do during that time and reward yourself with something specific. Then plan to work for 25 minutes and take a longer break substantially increasing the reward each time you lengthen the amount of time you are spending on the difficult task. The more you work the more substantial the goal! List what you are working on, figure out your approach, make a clear map and know what you are working on. REMEMBER: Assess all the tasks you will need to do and know where you are going. Get help from a loved one if you are overwhelmed get stuck or need help prioritizing. TIP :Figure out what helps you to do your difficult tasks. If it is music or something else gamify things in a way that helps you get it done. Prioritizing/Improving Time Management can Reduce Overwhelm Procrastination is often related to the size of the amount of overwhelm you are feeling. If you are overwhelmed, it is because something feels too big or complicated. You may also have the mindset, "If I don't try, I can't fail". TIP: Figure out what helps you to do your complex tasks. If it is music or something else, gamify things in a way that enables you to get it done. The Eisenhower Matrix In many seminars on time management for people with ADHD this matrix is used. People with ADHD tend to spend too much time in the "Urgent and Not Important" Quadrant because of their difficulty with time management and prioritization. "Urgent and Important Quadrant" because of their problem with procrastination. "Not important and not urgent quadrant" to deal with the stress that mismanagement of time creates from spending too much time in the wrong quadrants and get hits of dopamine. The key is to shift your time to spend more time in Quadrant 2. You can click on this page to learn more about this strategy and find more resources on it. Use Backwards Design to Decrease Obstacles Backwards design is helpful because it helps you to first to visualize successfully meeting your goal. Then, you work backward to estimate time and determine how long something might take and develop your plan. It begins provide extra help for you in your brain where you struggle with your executive functioning skills. I have to leave at 8 what time to a need to get up? I need to eat breakfast that takes 20 minutes I need get dressed that takes 10 minutes I also need to check my email that 10 minutes I like to check my phone that takes 15 minutes In total that will take 55 minutes I need to get up at 7:05 I should set leaving alarms at 745, 750 and 755 I should Set alarms 5 10 and 15 minutes before you have to leave if you are late. Other Tips to Helping with Motivation and Procrastinating Routines and structure are important and can foster persistence when you would otherwise be avoiding and procrastinating. At the end of the day write down things you did that you feel good about. Celebrate them. Practice setting small manageable goals with rewards Remember to plan , schedule and use backwards design to estimate time. If you are struggling ask for help from friends or family with this process. Mistakes with this process are how you learn. Create a Motivation Plan for Yourself to Help you Get Things Done It can be helpful when you are struggling to create a specific motivation plan with concrete elements and post it in a place where you can adjust it. Use the strategies above to help with all aspects of your motivation: Getting started Time management Goal oriented persistence Planning for overwhelm Rewards and incentives Years of negative feedback make you extra sensitive and you can expect that you will experience many challenges when you specifically address working on your procrastination. Stay positive and continue to modify your plan. Learn more about adhd on these pages adhd and exercise adhd and medications adhd and emotional regulation adhd and diet adhd and college accomodations adhd and depression
...ADHD Meal Planning Solutions: Simple Strategies for Stress-Free Eating
Introduction If meal planning feels overwhelming or chaotic, especially with ADHD, know this: You are not alone. So many people with ADHD...
ADHD and Exercise
Why Exercise is Important for Women with ADHD—and How to Make It Work for You Are you a woman with ADHD who struggles to maintain a regular...
ADHD and Hypersensitivity: 5 Strategies To Cope That Aren’t Masking
ADHD and Hypersensitivity: Understanding Internal and External Experiences Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) as a Form of ADHD...
ADHD and Career Development: Empowering Neurodivergent Women
Building a Career with ADHD: Mindset and Strategies It's estimated that those with ADHD receive 20,000 more negative messages by age 10 than positive ones. It's hard to envision a career path when you feel bad about yourself, don't know yourself well, and lack confidence. It's no wonder that many ADHD women struggle with the confidence to begin charting a path to a career. They believe something is wrong with them; how can they start this journey? Beginning a career path requires confidence, goal setting, and determination. That's tough when you have a history of not trusting yourself. It's understandable, though. Everyone who has tried to "help you" has been focused on your problems (if you've gotten help). Most professionals view ADHD from a deficit-based model, but what if we tried to view ADHD from a positive or strength-based model? ADHD women have many strengths. Edward Hallowell, a doctor who treats ADHD and struggles with it himself, is known for taking this approach. To do this work, seeing your ADHD as more positive than negative is essential. It's beneficial to find a career that plays to your strengths! Reframing ADHD: Mirror Traits Hallowell created the concept of Mirror Traits. For instance, "hyperactive" can also be considered "energetic," and in the workplace, it often translates that way. He also reframes creativity as impulsivity gone right. Dr. Hallowell is a profoundly loving and inspirational man who has taught and treated many ADHDers. If you can track down a video of him speaking, see him in person, or find a podcast, I highly recommend it. If your mindset requires some help, start the hard work of reframing your ADHD "symptoms." Finding What Matters: Values and Strengths As an ADHD woman, it's crucial for you to be interested in your job. Women with ADHD struggle with motivation and attention when they are bored. However, you will thrive when it is work that you are interested in and enjoy. It would help you have a career you can be absorbed in, excel at, and value. The problem is, you may have spent so much time trying to please everyone else and thinking you aren't good enough that you might not know who you are. All the negative messages, shaming, and criticism may have brought you far from the essence of what you enjoy, what you are good at, and who you are. You may need help relearning what is essential to you, what you are good at, and what you love. Tools for Discovering Your Career Path Defining Your Core Values Values are who you are at your core—your most profound sense of what is important to you. I use values to work with all of my clients, and it is a central tool in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), which I often use in my therapy practice. As we move through life, negative messages, fear, anxiety, and depression move us away from who we are, and we start making decisions based on things other than who we truly want to be as people. Values exercises can help us get back in touch with who we indeed are deep down. Here are two tools I use with my clients: Values Inventory: This tool helps you identify what matters most by listing and prioritizing your core values. Reflecting on these can guide you toward careers aligning with your beliefs and passions. Values Essays: Writing essays about your values can provide deeper insights into what drives you. This exercise can reveal patterns and themes in your life that point to a fulfilling career path. Recognizing Your Character Strengths Edward Hallowell, M.D., Ed.D., writes, "Ignoring strengths tends to extinguish them, or at best, not develop them." Knowing your strengths can help you match them to a career where you will use them best. A website that offers a free analysis of your top strengths universal across cultures and nations is VIA Character Strengths. It has several articles about strengths and offers more sophisticated analysis for a small fee. This site is used by many career coaches, especially those who work with ADHD. According to VIA Character Strengths, knowing your strengths can: Improve your relationships Enhance health and overall well-being Buffer against, manage, and overcome problems Reflecting on Childhood Interests Still stuck? Tracy Otsuka, a career coach who works with ADD women, suggests thinking back to what you loved doing as a child and a teen. You can begin remembering things you loved doing that you may have forgotten about. Did you love to garden, paint, or play with dogs? This may be the key to the direction you need to look in for your career. Whatever you choose, remember ADHD women need to be interested, challenged, and happy in their careers. Each has unique characteristics they can capitalize on and will be an asset to the right job. In my work with ADHD women, I also find that having a supportive work environment with a manager who understands your strengths is essential. Of course, many women with ADHD are entrepreneurs, which is often the best fit. Building a Support Network for Success Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your abilities. This includes mentors, friends, family, and professionals who understand ADHD. A strong support network can provide encouragement, advice, and feedback, helping you stay motivated and focused on your career goals. Finding a Mentor Finding a mentor who understands ADHD can be incredibly beneficial. They can offer guidance, share their experiences, and help you navigate challenges. Look for mentors within your industry or join ADHD support groups where you can connect with others who share similar experiences. Seeking Professional Support Consider working with a career coach who specializes in ADHD. They can help you set realistic goals, develop strategies for managing ADHD symptoms in the workplace, and provide accountability. Therapists who understand ADHD can also help you work through any emotional barriers that might be holding you back. Embracing Lifelong Learning ADHD often comes with a love of learning and exploring new things. Embrace this by continuously seeking out new knowledge and skills. This not only keeps you engaged and motivated but also makes you more adaptable and valuable in the workplace. Online Courses and Workshops Take advantage of online courses and workshops to build new skills or deepen your knowledge in areas of interest. Websites like Coursera, Udemy, and LinkedIn Learning offer a wide range of topics that can help you advance your career. Networking Events and Conferences Attend industry-specific networking events and conferences. These can provide opportunities to learn from experts, discover new trends, and connect with potential employers or collaborators. Practicing Self-Compassion Finally, be kind to yourself. Recognize that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and it's okay to struggle sometimes—practice self-compassion by treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend. Here is a good page on how to start. Mindfulness and Meditation Mindfulness and meditation can help you stay grounded and reduce stress. These practices can improve your focus, emotional regulation, and overall well-being, making it easier to pursue your career goals. Positive Self-talk Use positive affirmations to counteract negative self-talk. Remind yourself of your strengths and achievements regularly. This can boost your confidence and help you maintain a positive outlook on your career journey. By focusing on your strengths, understanding your values, and building a supportive network, you can create a fulfilling and successful career path that aligns with your true identity. Adhd Makes asking for Help Hard. Here are some Tips on How to do it Anyway.(Opens in a new browser tab) Core Values as A tool to Increase Confidence in Adhd Women(Opens in a new browser tab) Career development for ADHD women ADHD and the open office ADHD friendly workplaces ADHD Friendly Workplace Technology ADHD friendly careers Self advocacy in the workplace How to ask for accommodations in the workplace How to disclose at work Neurodivergent friendly workplaces Why do adhd women stay in jobs they hate? Rsd in the workplace Career changes for adhd women Common job challenges for adhd women Workplace stress and adhd women Workplace gaslighting and adhd women Creating an ADHD supportive workplace for ADHD WOMEN(Opens in a new browser tab)
...29 Tips for women to get enough sleep.
Sleep Tips for ADHD: Enhancing Rest and Boosting Performance To get better sleep, you don't just need to get enough hours of rest. You...